I'm Off To College! Bye Bye Boyfriend?

Hello Love Bugs!

It's an exciting time! You're off to college in the fall! You are FINALLY on your own!  You'll be hours away from the same old same old routine. You'll be meeting new people, going to parties, studying for exams ( ok so THAT part doesn't sound so great)...you know, the whole college "experience".  Feels good to be free right!?  But what about your BOYFRIEND??

He may be going to a different college or maybe he is staying home to finish high school...either way, you'll be miles and hours apart.  How is this going to work? CAN this work?

I'll tell you the truth you may not want to hear: It probably won't work unless:

• You trust each other COMPLETELY.
• You BOTH plan to be 100% FAITHFUL.
• You plan to visit each other OFTEN.
• You communicate CONSTANTLY.

IF YOU CAN DO ALL OF THE ABOVE WITHOUT A DOUBT, THEN YOU HAVE A CHANCE!

My advice?

You are starting a whole new life! Enjoy every moment.

• Be honest with yourself and with your boyfriend/girlfriend about your expectations for your college life and for your relationship. 
• Have an open dialogue BEFORE you get out of town.  If you wait, you'll end up texting or face-timing a breakup and that doesn't do honor to the relationship at all.  So, get that business done before you leave.  Eye to eye!
• Keep in touch if you can. Some people can handle that and some can't. You don't want to be rubbing your "new happy without them" life in their face. They would rather think you missed them so bad that you spend four years at college crying over your prom pictures! But if you leave things as friends, you may both really enjoy the relationship and sharing new things.  Just stay away from talking about dates...talking about that is guaranteed to hurt someone!
• Be true to YOURSELF.  Don't stay in a relationship because you feel guilty. You'll end up cheating at that frat party with the hottie you hardly know and then you're a CHEATER, which is NOT something you want to be.  College life is full of temptation and experiences that are all new to you. Ask yourself: CAN I stay faithful?
• Lastly, keep it real, keep it honest, keep it loving....to both yourself and your guy/girl.  Honesty may hurt someone at this point, but it's either be honest now or be a liar later.

I'm not one to blow sunshine up your skirt. I tell it like it is. Experience is an excellent teacher, and I've had plenty.

Love each other all the way or let it go and maybe destiny will bring you back together. Listen to your heart and mind. Listen to each other.

It's going to be O.K.